How we perceive the world and make plans for the next moment to execute our action depend on different characteristic of divergent parameters. Dr. Volker Busch saying that the capability of our skills for managing the tasks and plans in particular time and space is one of the most primary determinant for our well-beings. It means that if we can afford to manage our moments to execute the particular behaviors which we desire to make real, it contributes to our well-being, thus, we have the sense of that we are in charge and we can get dispose of feeling bad.
I found a way to make it happen which is maybe not bringing too much burden. It works like that: I am accepting what I have at the moment, even the thing is very boring or hurting (if it is not that much), I join this specific activity, and dont complain about it. For example, while I drive, sometimes I choose a wrong, crowded road to go to a place. There are lots of cars that I need to travel with, and I lose almost an hour. It is a very boring situation. But I am between these cars, and there is no way out. So, I accept the incident. I sometimes find ways to feel better. In that example, I can listen something from spotify, or call some friends to spend my time. Eventually, this one hour ends, and the pain is gone. As a result, I manage the incident, and when I look at back, the retrospective one, I don’t feel regretful or like there is a loss.
Sometimes we do the things that we don’t desire, sometimes we cannot do the things that we adore so much. In both situations, if we can accept the reality and make a union with it, it eases the way of that we behave, and it also results in that we are managing the situation. It increases the power of ours in the situation. We find more rights to say something on it. We can contribute, add something to the situation. However, if the things are already too much for us, or on the other hand, if the things are wanted really much by us, they will come out to our lives eventually. I mean that if something is a torture for us, our body will react at some point. Or if we desire something really much, our brains will always process the issue, and we will do something about it. So the time is that we spend should not be considered as a loss, in contrast, it should be a part of our control mechanisms which we posses and also which we belong to.
Result: Not every moment in our lives is so much fun. But if we are aware of that the boredom (pain) will go away in a minute (or so), we can be involved and even manage the particular time in front of us. And we can feel much more saturated and, we have a sense that we have a control of our lives.
